Friday, July 16, 2010

"Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened." ~ Dr. Seuss

My blog is moving.

To here:

Hope to see you there :)

Monday, June 28, 2010

"French women don't get fat" by Mireille Guiliano

I've always struggled with my weight. I've gone through periods of being fairly overweight to being vastly underweight. I've always had a "belly"; even as a baby I had a little pot belly out the front. I have also never had a good relationship with food. I love food, but mainly the bad stuff. Besides my love for fruit, I will always choose sugar, chocolate & fat over something healthy. When I try to be "healthy" I either fail miserably straight away or go to the extreme & stop eating. 
This, I hope, is all about to change. 
I've heard about "French Women don't get Fat" for years & have always thought that it sounded like a wonderful premise but have never made the effort to buy & read the book. Before I fell pregnant I was about 15kgs above my healthy weight range. During my pregnancy I put on another approx. 15kgs. (I only weighed myself once during & about a year beforehand). Straight after Lily was born I lost her almost 4kgs of weight plus a bit of water weight. I've managed to lose some more through breastfeeding, more walking & watching what I eat a little more but I'd still estimate that I am at least 8kgs above my healthy weight range, possibly more. 
But even more importantly, I do not have a good relationship with food. I splurge on the bad stuff & feel guilty. Then, instead of compensating, I just keep going & end up feeling more guilty. This is not something I want Lily to learn from me. 
Both Dean & I have a great interest in food; him being a chef it comes naturally & he inspires me. Our greatest pleasure is dining at quality & forward thinking restaurants; the greatest meal we've had was at Quay in Sydney (at only $500 for 2 people). But in our everyday lives we eat to sustain ourselves, nothing more, & leave the real pleasure eating for special occasions. I want Lily to have a real appreciation for food; the way it grows, the way it is prepared & presented, the way it tastes & what it can do for our bodies. At the moment, I don't feel I could properly teach her this. 
Which is why I bought this book. It details the tried & true practices of French women (& men) and how easily they can be applied in other cultures (the book is written for Americans but can easily be applied elsewhere). Whilst reading I couldn't help but think how simple & easy to implement these practices are. Yet they are also practical. It's all simply about learning what your body needs & shaping your diet, mind & lifestyle to match. This doesn't mean cutting out all fats or carbs or sugars or anything suddenly & dramatically. Rather it involves identifying those items that you can live without or live with less of. Do you really need 5 slices of bread a day? Could you live with one less spoon of sugar in each coffee? Once you have identified these items you start to gradually cut back; not in a day, a week or a month, but over a 3 month period. Once the 3 months is up you realise that you don't necessarily need what you were consuming before & it has become such a lifestyle change that you don't even need to think about it. After this comes "stabilization", where you work on your diet on a week-to-week basis in order to maintain a steady weight, health & lifestyle. Splurge on bread one night? Go for a longer walk the next day or have one glass of wine with dinner instead of two. 
There is more discussed in the book including exercise & portion control, as well as recipes, but this one of the main principles. 
Such simple & common sense practices. I wish I was bought up in a culture where this was the norm & there wasn't such an emphasis on quick & false-pleasurable food. 
Now, I haven't implemented these practices as yet but I plan too. I am currently on holidays but at the start of next week I plan to start, by recording everything I consume (when, what, where, portion size) for 3 weeks to ascertain what I am over consuming & what changes I can make. After the 3 months I will come back & let you know how it goes. By then I hope to be slimmer, healthier, happier & hopefully with lower cholesterol. 
But even still, I have started trying to implement things; I am experimenting with sparkling waters to cut down on my intake of soft drink & juice, I am drinking a lot more water, I am making a conscience effort to choose "healthier" meals & take more pleasure in what I eat. I have also been cooking more meals for myself & am excited about visiting a farmers market next week to experience fresher & higher quality food. 
I definitely recommend this book. While it falls within the self-help category I don't feel it falls within the "diet" category. It's more about changing your mind & your outlook; the food & the weightless just follow. 

Please let me know if you have read the book & implemented the practices & how you found it.

Thursday, June 3, 2010

A list is only as strong as its weakest link. Donald Knuth

I've added links in my last blog post and will do so in the future too. It would only let me link to Amazon most of the time but this is a better site:

It's an English site that offers free delivery to most countries & very cheap prices (especially when the Aussie dollar is good!)

Please let me know if I've stuffed up any of the links

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

“If one cannot enjoy reading a book over and over again, there is no use in reading it at all.” Oscar Wilde

"Life of Pi" by Yann Martel - amazing book! It has taken me forever to review this book; I read it on Boxing Day last year. The protagonist Piscine "Pi" Molitor Patel is an Indian boy who's father owns a zoo.

The first half of the book explores his world in this zoo & at school. I really enjoyed this part. When I was little I wanted to work at zoo. Imagine working with animals all day! Watching them grow & develop. Reading this book brought back all of those ambitions; I even looked up the qualifications needed. Unfortunately I don't think I could handle the pressure of finding a placement when there is so few. Anyway, back to the book. Born a Hindu, Pi begins to investigate religions through Christianity & Islam. He tries to understand the God that is portrayed in each religion & his place in the world. Pi's father then sells the zoo to move to Canada. Pi's family travels by boat with the animals with the plan to drop them at their new home then continue onto Canada. This is where it all goes wrong. The boat sinks & Pi ends up in a lifeboat with a tiger, a hyena, a orangutan & a zebra. Pi is stuck at sea for 227 days & must learn to survive without food or water while sharing a boat with a ferocious tiger.

This is a very well written book. Wonderful imagery and extremely engaging; I finished it all in one night.
The twist at the end is surprising & fantastic. Very enjoyable book & I definitely recommend it.

"Tokyo Cancelled" by Rana Dasgupta - I really didn't enjoy this book. The premise started quite well; a group of people are stranded overnight in a small airport in rural Japan. To stave away boredom they tell each other stories. This could have worked out well; interesting stories that tie the people together. However, Tokyo Cancelled isn't like this. The occasional scenes in the airport seem very disjointed from the stories & are only there to introduce the "speaker" of the next story. The stories themselves are disturbing & strange. I am usually a fan of "different" stories but these left me feeling depressed & a little disturbed. If that's your thing then fine. But it wasn't for me.

"A Hitch hiker's Guide to the Galaxy" - the "5 Book Trilogy" by Douglas Adams - loved, loved, loved, loved these books! Did I say that I loved them? I know I'm late to the bandwagon but these books are amazing. So imaginative, so funny. I spent the whole 5 books chuckling and wondering how on earth he can think of all of these things. The world lost an amazing mind when Adams passed away. There's not much more to say. Just go & read these books NOW!

"Casino Royale" by Ian Fleming - I've never been a huge fan of the Bond movies but thought I'd read the books to see of they were any better. I really enjoyed this. The action is as good as the movies and he's actually not as much of a w*nker as he is in the films. It's great to be able to see in his mind & find out how it works & how he learnt all he knows. I'm looking forward to reading the others to see if they are just as good.

"Breakfast at Tiffany's" by Truman Capote - I'm a huge fan of Audrey Hepburn but can't actually remember seeing this movie. So thought I read the book before seeing the movie again. Of course, knowing that Hepburn plays the role in the movie I could only read this with Hepburn in the character. Either way, it was a very enjoyable book. The characters are well written & the story is engaging. It's a very short story but definitely a classic.

"The Boy in the Striped Pajamas" by John Boyne - I actually gave this book to my dad for Christmas & borrowed it off him after he had read it. It's technically a Young Adult book but I enjoyed it anyway. Some of the best books are classed as YA - Tomorrow When the War Began series anyone?

The book is extraordinary; it tells the story of Bruno, the son of a Nazi Commandant, who moves with his family to "Out-With" (Auschwitz). 8 year old Bruno is very naive & is unaware of who the people are that live in the buildings next to his house, who are lucky enough to wear striped pajamas everywhere. Feeling lonely & homesick for his friends in Berlin, Bruno begins to investigate along the fence that separates the two worlds. Here he meets Shmuel, a sad boy on striped pajamas. Bruno still doesn't know who these people are & is completely unaware of the tragedy surrounding him. All he knows is that these people seem unhappy, his friend is always hungry & he has to behave when the "Fury" (Fuhrer) comes to visit.

The book caused a lot of controversy with Semitic groups who said that is was inconceivable that people surrounding the death camps couldn't know what was going on. Also, it has apparently been recorded that there was no children Schumel's age still alive in the camps.
I think it's Bruno's naive ignorance that adds further depth to the suffering of the Jews. He doesn't know who they are or why they are there be still seems to know that it is wrong. It also forces the reader to look at the situation differently; how would you feel about it if you didn't know the whole story behind the holocaust? A well-written & thought provoking book.

"A Series of Unfortunate Events" (The 1st 3 books) by Lemony Snicket - I had seen the movie but hadn't read the books. I was at my parents' house with nothing to read so borrowed my sister's book. Loved it! Such dark, sarcastic humor. Most of it would be likely to go over the heads of the children it is marketed towards but I thought it was fantastic.

"A Catcher in the Rye" by J.D Salinger - this was another classic that I had been meaning to read for ages. It's been awhile since I read it now so I'm having a bit of trouble remembering it, but I liked it. I'm not sure it I quite understand why it is seen as such a great American novel but I did think it was very well written. Not much to the story but what there was, was good.

"The Adventures and Memoirs of Sherlock Holmes" by Arthur Conan Doyle - OK, yes. I did buy this book after I saw the new movie with Robert Downey Jr. However, it was mostly because I realised then that I had never read any Holmes stories. I had been missing out. Of course, Downey Jr was Holmes for me as I was reading but I was fine with that. I will confess that I couldn't work out the mysteries until they were solved & I loved the fact that it was true that they never actually fought anyone, instead only "apprehend the suspect". Great read.

"Saving Francesca" & "The Piper's Son" by Melina Marchetta - Marchetta's other novel "Looking for Alibrandi" is one of my all time favourites. It's a common year 12 text, but I read it in about year 9 for fun. A classic Australian novel of teenage angst, the characters are real & moving.
"Saving Francesca" & "The Piper's Son" rate right up there with it. Francesca is in her final years at school & has been moved to an all boys school; she is one of the first intake of 40 girls in a school of over 200 boys. Not only does she have to deal with annoying & misogynistic teenage boys but all of a sudden her bright & vivacious mum won't get out of bed. She's lonely at school, her home life has gone to hell. The school prefect annoys her, especially in the way that he is just so perfect, and the way that he speaks, and speaks directly to her. Then sanity is suddenly found in her bunch of misfit friends, an unlikely group of people as ever.

"The Piper's Son" follows one of these friends, Tom, in the years after school as he struggles to find himself again after going off the tracks with drugs. He moves in with his single, pregnant aunt & starts to work at the same pub as Francesca & some of their other friends. His relationships struggle: Frankie & their friends no longer talk to him, his mother & sister moved to QLD & no one knows where his drunkard father is.

I have to say, I may even think these books are better than Alibrandi. Once again I read them both in one sitting - staying up until 3am to finish them even though I knew Lily would be up at 5am. I read Francesca first & then had to buy the Piper's Son. Like Alibrandi the characters are engaging & "real" & the plot is moving.

The strangest thing I found is that the books are set in Sydney & actually in the area in which I live. It would sometimes draw me out of the book when I'd read that they were visiting a cafe just up the road from me or walking down a road that I quite often walk down.

But that's just a minor complaint. These are great books & I've already lent them out for someone else to read.

"The Princess Bride" by William Goldman - this is a book that I'd been told for ages to read. Also, I'd always heard many people say that the movie was one of their favourites.

Now, I haven't seen the movie but I have to say that I'm not a huge fan of the book. It was enjoyable but wasn't as fun as I expected. The whole (fake) premise that the book is an edited version of one that was read to the author when he was a child just ended up being ... annoying in the end. The little interjections from the author about what was cut etc just seemed too fake & distracted from the story, in my opinion.

Without these aspects & with a more complex plot it would have been an extremely enjoyable book; the humor was great & the story telling wasn't too bad.

"Rabbit, Run" by John Updike - it's not often that I read a book that I dislike. It is even less often that I read a book where I dislike the protagonist.

Rabbit, Run tells the story of Rabbit, a middle aged man who was a big shot basketball player in high school but lost it all through injury. One night he decides to leave his pregnant wife & 2yo son & drive across the country. Halfway there he changes his mind & drives back. Instead of going home he visits his old coach. Through him Rabbit meets another girl, who used to be a prostitute & shacks up with her. He eventually goes back to his wife after she has the baby as he thinks it's the right thing to do. They fight because she won't have sex with him only weeks after having the baby & he leaves again. When he is still not back the next day the wife starts to drink while looking after the kids. Going to give the baby a bath she accidentally drowns her & at the funeral Rabbit tells her that it's all her fault before running away again.

The book is set in the early 60's and much of the values of the day can be seen - Rabbit leaves his wife because he doesn't like her anymore & immediately starts living with this other lady because she is a "loose woman" & will therefore have sex with him. He only goes back to his wife because she has the baby & feels like a saint because this was the "right thing to do".

I spent the whole book angry at him & only finished it out of a strange sense of obligation. The drowning of the baby was horrific, especially as my baby is only 3 months old & just added to the overall depressing feel of the book.

I also wasn't a big fan of the author's writing style; I ended up skipping large sections as he had a tendency to waffle on describing everything in a overly poetic & verbose way.

I read the epilogue to discover that there is another 3 or so books with the same character but I definitely won't be rushing out to read them.


"The Tibetan Book of Living & Dying" by Sogyal Rinpoche
"Einstein" by Walter Isaacson
"The Art of Happiness: A Handbook for Living" by His Holiness the Dalai Lama
"War & Peace" by Leo Tolstoy (if I ever find it again. How on earth could you lose this book in a tiny house?!)
"A Confession" by Leo Tolstoy
"Monet & The Impressionists" by George T M Shackelford & Terence Maloon
"The God Delusion" by Richard Dawkins
"The Consolations of Philosophy" by Alain De Botton
"The Beatles and Philosophy"
"Derrida: writing and difference"
"Lady Chatterley's Lover" by D. H. Lawrence
"The Adventures of Tom Sawyer" by Mark Twain
"Tofu Landing" by Evan Maloney
"Dirk Gently's Holistic Detective Agency" by Douglas Adams
"The Stars' Tennis Balls" by Stephen Fry
"Paperweight" by Stephen Fry
"Making History" by Stephen Fry
"Moab is My Washpot" by Stephen Fry
"The Salmon of Doubt" by Douglas Adams
"The Hippopotamus" by Stephen Fry
"Last Chance to See" by Douglas Adams


"Her Fearful Symmetry" by Audrey Niffengger
"The Slap" by Christos Tsiolkas
"Understanding Exposure" by Bryan Peterson
"Eats, Shoots & Leaves" by Lynne Truss
"Atlas Shrugged" by Ayn Rand
"The Wild Things" by David Eggers
"The Lovely Bones" by Alice Sebold
"Shantaram" by Gregory David Roberts
"The Kite Runner" by Khaled Hossein
"And Another Thing" by Eoin Colfer
The Bonds Series by Ian Fleming
"Finnikin of the Rock" by Melina Marchetta

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

I always knew I'd love her. I just never realised how much.

It feels like a year since she arrived. It's only been 10wks. Occassionaly I'll stop and think "wait a minute, I'm someone's mother! I am responsible for another human being. This little baby is going to turn in to a toddler, then a child, then a teenager, then an adult. Bloody hell, one day this baby is going to be having babies of her own!!" At times like these I start to freak out and wonder if I can cope. Other times it's as if it just completly normal, completly natural. As if she's been here my whole life, as if I've always been looking after her. Other times I stare at her tiny perfect face and try to imagine the person she will become. Will she be like me or her father? Will she be a dancer or a lifesaver or a reader? Will she feel like an loner like I did? Will she eventually find happiness like I did?

Sometimes I think that I don't feel as strongly as I should. I love people, I know anger & sadness but often I feel as if most of those feelings are trapped away and I am only feeling a proportion of what I should. When I look at Lily I sometimes feel overwhelmed. How is it possible that I can feel so much for one person? With Dean it is different. We just fit, we connect and I could not imagine my life without him. But when Lily smiles at me my heart swells and I almost cry. You read about it, it's so cliched when someone says "my children are my life" but I believe it now.

I don't think any words could explain the way that I feel when Lily smiles at me while she's trying to feed or the way I feel when I look at her in the crazy positions she gets herself in to in bed.

My life is so much fuller because she is here.

Friday, April 16, 2010

Dymocks 2010 Booklover's Best top 101

Highlighted = want to read

Crossed out = have read

Plain = don't really have any interest in reading

1. The Twilight Saga by Stephenie Meyer
2. The Harry Potter Series by J.K. Rowling
3. Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen
4. The Time Traveler's Wife by Audrey Niffenegger
5. The Lord of the Rings Trilogy by J.R.R. Tolkien
6. The Book Thief by Marcus Zusak
7. To Kill a Mocking Bird by Harper Lee

8. The Millennium Trilogy by Stieg Larsson
9. My Sister's Keeper by Jodi Picoult
10. The Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini
11. The Bronze Horseman by Paullina Simons
12. Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte
13. Wuthering Heights by Emily Bronte
14. The Lovely Bones by Alice Sebold
15. Vampire Academy by Richelle Mead
16. Magician by Raymond E. Feist
17. Gone With the Wind by Margaret Mitchell
18. The Da Vinci Code by Dan Brown
19. Cloudstreet by Tim Winton

20. The Host by Stephenie Meyer
21. Mao's Last Dancer by Li Cunxin
22. Atonement by Ian McEwan
23. The Hobbit by J.R.R. Tolkien
24. Angels and Demons by Dan Brown
25. A Thousand Splendid Suns by Khaled Hosseini
26. Cross Stitch by Diana Gabaldon
27. Shantaram by Gregory David Roberts
28. The Slap by Christos Tsiolkas
29. Nineteen Eighty-Four by George Orwell
30. Memoirs of a Geisha by Arthur Golden
31. The Hitch Hiker's Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams
32. Tomorrow When the War Began by John Marsden
33. Obernewtyn by Isobelle Carmody
34. The Boy in the Striped Pyjamas by John Boyne
35. The Inheritance Series by Christopher Paolini
36. The Eyre Affair by Jasper Fforde
37. Guernsey Literary & Potato Peel Pie Society by Mary Ann Shaffer
38. The Picture of Dorian Gray by Oscar Wilde

39. The Hunger Games by Suzanne Collins
40. Catch-22 by Joseph Heller
41. Ice Station by Matthew Reilly
42. The Power of One by Bryce Courtenay
43. Persuasion by Jane Austen
44. Tully by Paullina Simons
45. Seven Ancient Wonders by Matthew Reilly
46. Breath by Tim Winton
47. The Mortal Instruments Series by Cassandra Clare
48. Life of Pi by Yann Martel
49. A Fine Balance by Rohinton Mistry
50. The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
51. Emma by Jane Austen
52. The Other Boleyn Girl by Philippa Gregory
53. The Bible
54. Six Sacred Stones by Matthew Reilly
55. A Fortunate Life by A.B. Facey
56. We Need To Talk About Kevin by Lionel Shriver
57. The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald
58. Anne of Green Gables by L.M. Montgomery
59. The God of Small Things by Arundhati Roy

60. The Shadow of the Wind by Carlos Ruiz Zafon
61. People of the Book by Geraldine Brooks
62. The Lost Symbol by Dan Brown
63. The Historian by Elizabeth Kostova
64. Interview with the Vampire by Anne Rice
65. Crime and Punishment by Fyodor Dostoevsky
66. The Sookie Stackhouse Series by Charlaine Harris
67. Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom
68. Five Greatest Warriors by Matthew Reilly
69. On the Jellicoe Road by Melina Marchetta
70. The Princess Bride by William Goldman
71. The Five People You Meet in Heaven by Mitch Albom
72. Wicked by Gregory Maguire
73. Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert
74. Audacity of Hope by Barack Obama
75. Pillars of the Earth by Ken Follett
76. Dewey by Vicki Myron
77. Dirt Music by Tim Winton
78. Marley and Me by John Grogan

79. Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy
80. Dune by Frank Herbert
81. The Catcher in the Rye by J.D. Salinger
82. The Memory Keeper's Daughter by Kim Edwards
83. Frankenstein by Mary Shelley
84. War and Peace by Leo Tolstoy
85. The Road by Cormac McCarthy
86. Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides
87. The Chronicles of Narnia by C.S. Lewis
88. The Forgotten Garden by Kate Morton
89. Possession by AS Byatt
90. Finnikin of The Rock by Melina Marchetta
91. No 1 Ladies' Detective Agency by Alexander McCall Smith
Graceling by Kristin Cashore
93. The Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingsolver
94 .The Secret History by Donna Tartt
95. Silent Country by Di Morrissey
96. Wolf Hall by Hilary Mantel
97. Her Fearful Symmetry by Audrey Niffenegger
98. The Secret Life of Bees by Sue Monk Kidd
99. Still Alice by Lisa Genova
100. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
101. Gallipoli by Les Carlyon